Question 7: What are some do?s and don?ts men/women should look for?

Bachelor #1 response:
For men: The don?ts is if you take a woman out to eat and she won?t eat, that?s a no no cause that means she?s perpetrating she frontin, later on that night you gon here her stomach growlin and what not, you know she?s trying to front like she don?t get her grub on to me that?s you pretending all ready and you?re lying to me and so to me your frontin so that?s a definite out of the question. A woman that?s afraid to pass gas in front of me she frontin, a woman that?s scared to burp and all that, you frontin and to me that?s like you?re hiding in some kind of closet or playing some kind of game and uh, then the other don?ts is um, if a woman does not every now and then want to offer to buy a brother dinner she?s out of the picture too she?s striking out right there a woman shouldn?t feel that a man have to cater to her every need, I don?t play that. The do?s, a woman every now and then should at least offer to buy dinner because me myself, I would never allow her to, but if she offered, that?s a plus to me. A woman that would not necessarily break wind in front of me but say you know, she?d say excuse me I gotto go in the other room because I got to do something you know, but if she did, I would find that so, to me, that that?s sexy. Because in all honesty that means she?s comfortable enough around me to do what she got to do you understand what I?m saying. I would appreciate that. That?s about it. Don?ts a woman should look for in a man, I would honestly say that if a man don?t take the time to bless his food, that?s a no no. If a man don?t basically ask you what you want, where you want to go, and I?m not saying he got to cater to your every desire but if he took the time to ask you out, then let him take you out where you want to go. The don?ts, don?t look for a brother to always get in your pants on the first date. Even if you truly want to, don?t allow him to take you there. You take him there. Other don?ts, uh, finances, the first date can be dutch. A brother won?t lose respect for you if you go dutch on the first date. That means basically, cause the average thinking he?s paying for it, he gon get some skins on it. If you go dutch, then he knows right away, you can tell his reaction if you decide to go dutch what his whole mentality is cause the average brother is gon be like nah baby I got this don?t worry about it.

Bachelor #3 response:
Women should know that they don?t think like men. And going back to that, women should take the time to understand whatever her man has gone through in his lifetime experiences. And that goes with women also. Everyone has gone through ex Women should know that they don?t think like men. And going back to that, women should take the time to understand whatever her man has gone through in his lifetime experiences. Um, and that goes with women also. Everyone has gone through experiences so women should also want to know what her man or the man she?s interested in has gone through. Every man has a different experience.

Bachelor #4 response:
Women should know that we?re only going to do what you let us do. That you?re probably never gonna get 100% of us no matter how hard we try. There?s always a percentage that we keep to ourselves. Women should know we lie. We?re hardly ever truly satisfied. Our ego usually thinks for us. 80% of us are materialistic, 90% of us are superficial, half of us have not learned to get in touch with our feminine side and express that in a way that doesn?t create homophobic thoughts. As to men lying, if we?re 10 minutes late from coming home and the true reason is we stopped at the corner store to get a drink and we don?t want you to know, we gon lie about that, if we get a phone call from one of our home boys, and we don?t want you to know, we lie about that, I think men are susceptible to lie about just about anything especially if they see it in their benefit. As to superficial, I mean, everybody want a trophy I think, I think all men want a trophy. More times than not, we look for what we think everybody else is looking for not necessarily what we want for ourselves. As for femininity, it?s hard to relate to anything if you don?t allow yourself fully understand it and the only way you?re going to understand the femininity of a woman is to get in touch with your own feminine side. A man can do this by allowing himself to cry every now and then, allow himself to be sensitive about being soft, allow himself to look at things from a less masculine stand point, stop thinking with this ego.

Bachelor #5 response:
Men, don?t always want what they ask for. Because we ask you to do a 3 way, maybe you shouldn?t do it. Because maybe, that?s not what we really want you to do. Because for one, that?s not the woman 9 times out of 10 are going to choose to be our wife. If a man tells you ?oh baby I love you, I want you to have my baby?, don?t be stupid. Because, he may nor may not be there, but you, definitely got a kid and all of a sudden, he don?t remember that conversation. And three, stop trying to compete for him, stop trying to compete with other women for him. If you?re the one he?s going to choose, then you?re the one he?s going to choose. It?s that simple. So you don?t have to go out and sell yourself, market yourself, sacrifice your job, your income, your household to try and lure him from another woman. If he wants you, then you?re the one he?s going to choose.

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